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Mom is 85, has lewy body dementia. She wants to live with one of her kids but none of us wants to take it on. She doesn't want assisted living what are her other options?
What she wants and what she needs are two entirely different propositions.
She can hire 24/7 live in help or she can move to a facility that can meet her care needs. Those are the only options available in your situation.
Money is usually what determines the above.
She will only get worse and she will eventually need greater care than an AL can provide, keep that in mind when looking for places. You want to try and place her where she won't have any major moves in her future.
Best of luck, this is such a brutal disease and it is very hard on everyone.
This is true. What she wants is not what she necessarily needs. So many people have fallen into this trap....parent doesn't WANT to go to AL so the adult child must alter/give up their life to accommodate.
Simple but not so simple answer is... Mom has dementia she can not be decisional regarding her care. If none of you can handle caring for her there are no other options. And Assisted Living is not what you should be looking for. Memory Care would be a more appropriate place.
EVERYONE SAYS “NO” TO RESIDENTIAL CARE. NO ONE WANTS TO GO. (Except ME).
But when no one feels that they can, or want to, be a caregiver to Mom 24/7/365, the next best thing, AND QUITE POSSIBLY THE VERY BEST THING, is to find a very nice residential care site, and lovingly and confidently, to place Mom there.
And truthfully, those are the only options. And no one, NO ONE- should attempt to convince themselves or any of their siblings, that ANY of them should take on the responsibility, ESPECIALLY IF/WHEN NO ONE WANTS IT.
What you choose to do, if chosen with LOVE and RESPECT, IS RIGHT.
Keep this at the forefront: Her safety and your sanity. That’s what it boils down to. I’m so sorry you are going through this. It’s extremely stressful.
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
VI. No Waiver of Your Rights.
APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
I agree that:
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I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information").
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APFM may provide information to me electronically. My electronic signature on agreements and documents has the same effect as if I signed them in ink.
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APFM may send all communications to me electronically via e-mail or by access to an APFM web site.
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If I want a paper copy, I can print a copy of the Disclosures or download the Disclosures for my records.
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This E-Sign Acknowledgement and Authorization applies to these Disclosures and all future Disclosures related to APFM's services, unless I revoke my authorization. You may revoke this authorization in writing at any time (except where we have already disclosed information before receiving your revocation.) This authorization will expire after one year.
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You consent to APFM's reaching out to you using a phone system than can auto-dial numbers (we miss rotary phones, too!), but this consent is not required to use our service.
She can hire 24/7 live in help or she can move to a facility that can meet her care needs. Those are the only options available in your situation.
Money is usually what determines the above.
She will only get worse and she will eventually need greater care than an AL can provide, keep that in mind when looking for places. You want to try and place her where she won't have any major moves in her future.
Best of luck, this is such a brutal disease and it is very hard on everyone.
Mom has dementia she can not be decisional regarding her care.
If none of you can handle caring for her there are no other options.
And Assisted Living is not what you should be looking for. Memory Care would be a more appropriate place.
But when no one feels that they can, or want to, be a caregiver to Mom 24/7/365, the next best thing, AND QUITE POSSIBLY THE VERY BEST THING, is to find a very nice residential care site, and lovingly and confidently, to place Mom there.
And truthfully, those are the only options. And no one, NO ONE- should attempt to convince themselves or any of their siblings, that ANY of them should take on the responsibility, ESPECIALLY IF/WHEN NO ONE WANTS IT.
What you choose to do, if chosen with LOVE and RESPECT, IS RIGHT.