My mother is 90% perpetually unhappy. Has dementia, isn't mobile other than a wheel chair, but not strong enough to get around w/o assistance.
I work from home most days and at the end of the day for about the last 1.5 hours when I am finishing up my day she is in close proximity and earshot, but does not have any one-on-one attention which she has from 9am-4pm.
Within 5 minutes of being unoccupied, she is crying, feeling sorry for herself, and in a tizzie, starts :"urping" and shaking. I still have to do my job. I check on her, but can't be by her side.
How do you help a person like my mother?
She sees me as absent, but I have a very intense position as a chief of operations and can't mess up and be unfocused. I don't thinks she understands and when I try to explain, she doesn't remember. I find it very frustrating and the crying is very distressful to me because I am a solution finder and this I can't seem to fix.
Thank you in advance for any caring solutions/thoughts you may have as to how to deal with this on her side and mine.
Best regards to all-
LastOne
I will say that I think your expectation of your mom being patient, waiting for you to be free, being appreciative or understanding is not feasible. When the brain is damaged as it is with dementia, the patient has no ability to do those things. I would read a lot here and other places about dementia and how it affects not just the mind, but the body. There simply is no way they can behave the way we think they should. It's not intentional on their part.
It's not unreasonable to have your job as a priority. I would likely find some outside help to come in and help you or find a place that can care for your mom. There is so much involved with a wheelchair bound person with advanced dementia, that I don't know how it could be handled in the home with limited resources. Perhaps some people here will respond with their suggestions.