I got mom from India a week ago. I thought she could spend summer here since I don't work in summer.
Mom wanders into my kids' and inlaws rooms thinking it is her bedroom.
She also ask me 3 times a day which is her room. So how do I get her to remember her room?
She also wants me to sleep next to her - I have done so far a week and want to go back to my bedroom. Any tips on how to do this?
Thank you so much!
For sleeping, do you know why this is happening? Is she used to sleeping with someone else? Does she get cold in the night? Is she used to a much narrower bed? Or does she feel lost if she wakes alone in the night? If she feels lost, a touch light or another motion sensor light next to the bed might help. If she is used to sleeping with someone else or a narrower bed, you could try a rolled-up doona quilt in the bed next to her. Or perhaps a single bed electric blanket on low, down one side of the strip where she sleeps. Even a doll! But stop as soon as you can – you don’t want it to be a habit.
The night attendant (herself afraid of the dark) in India used to sleep in a bed next to mom and I guess mom got used to this. I will try the quilt idea.
Thanks again dear friends:-))
Wish there was a solution to your problem. Like her being able to stay here and get some of the benefits but that won't happen. See I thought her going back home was because she wanted to be near ur brother and his kids. Then u tell us brother wants nothing to do with her. I feel so bad for u. I hope u realize that these visits may have to stop one day.
All I can say is ur a good daughter. Just wish there was a good solution for you.
I imagine she is feeling lost and insecure, tell her you'll only lie down until she falls asleep. She might feel more reassured if you get a baby monitor and show her that you are able to hear her if she wakes up.
I agree with cwillie's answer about putting something on the bedroom room door, especially if there are a lot of bedrooms, thus a lot of doors.
Has your Mom indicated why she doesn't want to left alone in her room? How does Mom get along with the inlaw's? Sounds like some insecurity.
Oh, what about night lights? Maybe when your Mom wakes up, she is confused about where she is. It can happen to anyone who is traveling. A night light might help. I have several in my own bedroom mainly because I lose my sense of balance in a totally dark room.