someone help My parents are both elderly late70's and early 90's my father just had a stroke and both of my parents have demencia I don't even know if that is spelled right. I have four children left at home and I think I am going to have to stop the part time job I have to take care of them full time. so what do I do now i have no support from other family members.My husband and I are seperated now ,not because of this. help please!! I am 40 and I feel like my life is over and that makes me feel really bad my parents are the best
Thank You
Welcome this site will be a life saver to you. I am a caregiver for my husband and am now recovering from broken ribs and am now able to use the computer more-but whatever questions you have sooner of later you will get good advice from those in the know who have been through so much and still will be a comfort to you .
Welcome to this site these people will be a lifesaver for you. You should be proud of yourself that you are managing or as they say in the northeast-multitasking. Do not feel quiltty-DROP THE GUILT- I am better off than most of the selfless people on this site- and have become a better person for having this site to go to to vent and to see how my friends are doing. We will have bad days and being able to post is sometimes the only thing going for us-please keep in touch.
My niece is a pain to be honest as she is lazy, crude and rude. Her mother is a drug addict and one day shows up with a car she bought the kid. Another burden I refused to take so she got it tagged and insured some way but the kid expects me to keep her in gas so she can run the streets. She curses at my mother who then curses at me. Its getting to me so badly that I told mom something had to give and I was cursed as the lwest form of life etc., etc.
I have no help either as I said my sister is a drug addict and my brother lives in another state and is disabled and cannot work. His idea of helping is to send her expensive gifts here and there that don't pay the light bill or put food on the table.
We literally had no food until a friend of mine showed up with some and she was not even grateful just telling me that when I got paid again she was demanding I get her chocolate covered cherries because dad neve went a holiday without them. She often tells me how she lost everything because I am so worthless and didnt do enough. Her house was full of mold from the weather getting inside and there were rats and even a nice old snake running through the mess. In one room it was literally piled from the floor to the ceiling. Folks I am not exaggerating and I was told she had not been declared slight of mind or whatever the proper term is so I could do nothing about it. Argh....
I am so lost she has chased away anyone who would come around with her rudeness and if she doesn't that kid does. I broke my back three years ago and to behonest I am not supposed to be able to do anything that I do like walk or go to work but all I hear is that I don't know pain until I feel her pain shut up and stop being such a bad daughter when I want to sit for a bit after work instead of rushing around to suit her.
I am at the end of my rop and I cannot cry anymore tears and I just don't think I even want to go on period. I am not equipped to do this.
Oh I won't go into all the details we all have our stories but I never felt so bad for anyone when I saw the mass destruction she heaped on her own child and mother.
I am listening to you folks and grateful this site is here and you are willing to talk to me at all. Thank you. I cannot keep one solid straight thoght in my head and I am very lost at the moment. Again thanks.