My parents are in their 70s. My dad has a lot of physical issues lately; mostly due to inactivity. The problem is, he refuses to help himself. He'd rather sleep the entire day than to walk, exercise or do a little chore. He won't even take a shower! I've reminded him a lot on how inactivity can affect his health. He will agree but my mother complains that he is not doing anything and gets mad if being continually reminded. Please..any insight. I am frustrated and I feel bad for my mother. She carries all the load. I am thousands of miles away.
I hope you can find the answers you need that will help him. IF he could do better, he probably would.
My father would try to get me to do everything for him. I didn't mind helping with things he truly couldn't do, but refused on those he just didn't feel like doing.
We begged my father for years to get hearing aids. Finally a doctor convinced him to do it. Or so I thought. He just figured he would go to all the appointments to get to the point of getting one, then figure out a way to decline. And added bonus....it required me to take off of work several times for this little charade. So it is time to order and he tells me 'maybe in a few months". I tell him, 'no, now'. He gets them, he can hear! A week later I am returning them because he refuses to wear them because 'he doesn't like the way he sounds'. I make it very clear to him that if he returns them I will not be his ears. I will not make phone calls for him. He needs to live with the consequences of his actions. He agreed. Then promptly asked me to make a phone call for him "because he can't hear". I refused.
There is not much you can do with your father. He has to want it. But you can tell him that he has to live with the consequences and cannot expect others to accommodate him when he has heath issues as a direct result. Would he listen if you pointed out it will be a hardship on you and your mother if he doesn't do what he needs to do now?
Your Dad can not expect the aid to be right the first time he wears it. There is usually a follow up and that is when you tell the audiologist the problems you r having. Ajustments can be made. This is the problem with first time wearers.
Yes, I've been thinking about this. After the lock down, I will have him get a full work up and then check if it is a vitamin deficiency or like you said an onset of dementia. Thank you for your time.
No, they have been focusing lately on his kidneys. He has been having pitting edema. He is not moving and refused to elevate his feet. I just found out he doesn't know anymore that he urinated. Like I said I am thousands of miles away. Due to lock down and being far away, I feel so helpless. Thank you for your time.