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My understanding is that spouses get certain considerations when it comes to Medicaid. I don't know the details, but I believe there are others here on the forum who will know.
Medicaid doesn’t take anyone’s income. And they don’t leave spouses impoverished. If your husband qualifies or Medicaid and goes in to long term care, you’ll be allowed to keep enough income to live off of. Some of your husbands income may have to be paid to the nursing home each month but you would be allowed enough live off.
Angie, Are you working? Can you work? Do you qualify for disability? Is your husband a veteran?
In trying to help you, please excuse me for searching for more information. Your husband is very young to be disabled.
There are institutional facilities that can house people who commit battery. Those are free. However, there could be medical reasons, even medications that cause him to be this way. Was he always this way, or did it start with a condition or pain meds? There is always hope, some way out. Are you looking to get out for your own safety? Caregivers can give you that kind of advice if you need to.
Or do you feel that you would like to stay, and find resources that would help you to safely stay together?
Not knowing is okay. Sometimes with enough information, and support, we can figure this out.
As far as Medicaid, search "Community Spouse" on this forum (in the search icon above). That will explain how Medicaid is prevented from leaving you impoverished, so you can stay in your home.
Are you okay right now? Safe?
Do you have a "Go bag" packed in case you need to leave in a hurry?
I am giving basics here. I would suggest you consult with an elder care lawyer who is well versed in Medicaid in your State. Each state differs. I am in NJ.
When it comes to Medicaid paying for DHs care, you become the Community Spouse. You will be able to remain in your house and have one car. Monthly income and other assets will be looked at. Ex: my friends father needed care. He and his wife received SS and pensions. They had 60k in their savings. The 60k was split between the husband and wife. His half had to be spent down for his care leaving the Cap of 2k that NJ allows. Not sure how the SS and pensions were split but Mrs R never seemed to have any problems paying her bills. And, she never used that 30k she was allowed. It was still in the bank when she passed.
Agree with consulting a lawyer. Not so clear that she can remain in the house. Medicaid will not take it, BUT if she cannot afford maintenance, mortgage, etc., she may have to move. Medicaid will allow her SOME income, but it may not be enough. She needs legal help.
Just because your friend's father had enough money that his wife could afford to stay in the house (and we do not know how modest or luxurious the house was, and what the expenses were), does not mean all can.
Before replying, I always check to see if the person completed a profile. Angie you wrote: "I've had it with him hitting me." You also wrote that your husband is 56 years old - that's really young and he could live another 30+ years. Please don't stick around for the money. Both eventually run out.
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
VI. No Waiver of Your Rights.
APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
I agree that:
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I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information").
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APFM may provide information to me electronically. My electronic signature on agreements and documents has the same effect as if I signed them in ink.
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APFM may send all communications to me electronically via e-mail or by access to an APFM web site.
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If I want a paper copy, I can print a copy of the Disclosures or download the Disclosures for my records.
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This E-Sign Acknowledgement and Authorization applies to these Disclosures and all future Disclosures related to APFM's services, unless I revoke my authorization. You may revoke this authorization in writing at any time (except where we have already disclosed information before receiving your revocation.) This authorization will expire after one year.
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You consent to APFM's reaching out to you using a phone system than can auto-dial numbers (we miss rotary phones, too!), but this consent is not required to use our service.
Are you working? Can you work?
Do you qualify for disability?
Is your husband a veteran?
In trying to help you, please excuse me for searching for more information. Your husband is very young to be disabled.
There are institutional facilities that can house people who commit battery. Those are free. However, there could be medical reasons, even medications that cause him to be this way. Was he always this way, or did it start with a condition or pain meds? There is always hope, some way out. Are you looking to get out for your own safety? Caregivers can give you that kind of advice if you need to.
Or do you feel that you would like to stay, and find resources that would help you to safely stay together?
Not knowing is okay. Sometimes with enough information, and support, we can figure this out.
As far as Medicaid, search "Community Spouse" on this forum (in the search icon above). That will explain how Medicaid is prevented from leaving you impoverished, so you can stay in your home.
Are you okay right now? Safe?
Do you have a "Go bag" packed in case you need to leave in a hurry?
When it comes to Medicaid paying for DHs care, you become the Community Spouse. You will be able to remain in your house and have one car. Monthly income and other assets will be looked at. Ex: my friends father needed care. He and his wife received SS and pensions. They had 60k in their savings. The 60k was split between the husband and wife. His half had to be spent down for his care leaving the Cap of 2k that NJ allows. Not sure how the SS and pensions were split but Mrs R never seemed to have any problems paying her bills. And, she never used that 30k she was allowed. It was still in the bank when she passed.
Just because your friend's father had enough money that his wife could afford to stay in the house (and we do not know how modest or luxurious the house was, and what the expenses were), does not mean all can.