No money was exchanged. But there is about $400 in a trust the funeral home has. Can they charge me to make these changes? Most of my family and friends have passed, my children are mad at me for wanting to change my plans, no they don't visit me much anymore. I'm 77, and of sound mind.
It is ridiculous that your grown children are are mad at you for making any changes. It will be YOUR funeral, not theirs.
Lately, more and more wish to have a tree planted in their memory, using their own ashes.
I am doing this with my DH and only hope that when my time comes, someone will assist me in what I would prefer for myself.
Every situation is different though but a phone call to them should provide some ease for your unanswered questions.
Please excuse, but with Cetude's comment above I'd like to second their piece on
"You give homage to a person when they are alive..." How I wish Mom's family could have gotten that part of the equation.
I have found that "family" thankfully does not have to mean blood relative.
Take care, Lonelyperson and everyone.
Heard that somewhere and always liked it. I prepaid Moms funeral. It was so nice that everything was already planned. I can't imagine what change u want to make that children would not speak to you. Again, I read somewhere not to tell family what is in ur will. That way they can be mad at you after you die. Guess that goes for ur funeral too. Me, I don't want an open casket. My girls think I am weird. My husband wants to be cremated. Since he is doesn't attend church, I told him I am having no service. I will just have a luncheon at the golfclub for his fellow golfers. Just found out a fellow classmate passed back in Nov. She wanted no service and no obituary. So, the traditional funeral is going by the wayside. People are doing what they want not what is expected. No, I don't think the director will charge you for changes. Explain, though, that ur children r not happy about your decision and there r to be no changes on their part.
This might present a problem with the funeral home, because they often expect payment up front before services are performed.
If you pre-plan an expensive funeral, say $15,000, and no one has access to your funds immediately at your death and if none of your family wants to pay for it before the estate can be opened, your plans may not be viable.
You might be able to make the funeral home beneficiary of a life insurance policy or perhaps "pay on death" of a bank account. Whatever, since your family seems adverse to your desires, you should discuss this with the funeral director.