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This is the sadness of aging in place. We watch our LO's change in front of our eyes.
A start with a good physical and cognitive evaluation would be helpful, There are some meds that work for dementia type illnesses. Nothing 'cures' it, but some drugs can help make a patient 'lose it' more slowly.
Do you want an OK from this forum to place your wife in a care facility? Or are you just frustrated? Either is OK, we aren't living your life, so we cannot say.
My own mother has a far better grasp on what happened 20 years ago than she does with what happened yesterday. My MIL is 'locked' in the past--sadly, she is as angry with her ex and she was 50 years ago--and they divorced 30 years ago and he died 15 years ago. She cannot have a conversation that doesn't collapse into absolute hatred of her ex....you just have to leave, b/c she will not stop bashing on this poor man.
What is it you are really asking? Think about it and come back. Your question seems to have a LOT missing from it...........mostly, what you want/need to do going forth.
garlic, so sorry you are going through this, unfortunately this is a phase of memory loss. I would suggest you either just let your love one talk about the past or find something to distract her during those times.
For more helpful information on other memory issues, go to the top blue/green bar and to your right you will see CARE TOPICS, which is filled with a lot of great ideas during your wife's different phases.
Garlic, the way to move forward is to 1) get a diagnosis for what's going on with her, and 2) educate yourself to what her diagnosis is. Most likely she is in cognitive decline, aka dementia. Since there are different types of dementia, a proper diagnosis can help inform what medications may help her, and what tactics you employ to work around her memory issues and personality/behavioral changes. Her brain is broken and she will no longer be able to learn anything new. Nothing. She will remember the past much better because dementia is less damaging to that part of the memory.
Many on this forum recommend YouTube videos of Tippa Snow to learn about dementia. Also, please make sure you have her legal ducks in a row, as well as your own. If she was your durable PoA you will now need to find someone else (and much younger). I wish you all the best as you move forward and help your wife.
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
VI. No Waiver of Your Rights.
APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
I agree that:
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I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information").
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APFM may provide information to me electronically. My electronic signature on agreements and documents has the same effect as if I signed them in ink.
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APFM may send all communications to me electronically via e-mail or by access to an APFM web site.
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You consent to APFM's reaching out to you using a phone system than can auto-dial numbers (we miss rotary phones, too!), but this consent is not required to use our service.
A start with a good physical and cognitive evaluation would be helpful, There are some meds that work for dementia type illnesses. Nothing 'cures' it, but some drugs can help make a patient 'lose it' more slowly.
Do you want an OK from this forum to place your wife in a care facility? Or are you just frustrated? Either is OK, we aren't living your life, so we cannot say.
My own mother has a far better grasp on what happened 20 years ago than she does with what happened yesterday. My MIL is 'locked' in the past--sadly, she is as angry with her ex and she was 50 years ago--and they divorced 30 years ago and he died 15 years ago. She cannot have a conversation that doesn't collapse into absolute hatred of her ex....you just have to leave, b/c she will not stop bashing on this poor man.
What is it you are really asking? Think about it and come back. Your question seems to have a LOT missing from it...........mostly, what you want/need to do going forth.
Good Luck. I know this is hard.
For more helpful information on other memory issues, go to the top blue/green bar and to your right you will see CARE TOPICS, which is filled with a lot of great ideas during your wife's different phases.
Many on this forum recommend YouTube videos of Tippa Snow to learn about dementia. Also, please make sure you have her legal ducks in a row, as well as your own. If she was your durable PoA you will now need to find someone else (and much younger). I wish you all the best as you move forward and help your wife.