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This happens when the tv is on or off. Don't want her to believe that. Not sure really what to do, is this helping her or not. kinda stressful. I just don't know?
If it happens when the TV is off it is a hallucination. This is not an unusual thing in many dementias. It happens often with Parkinsons and Lewy's. My brother would see and converse with entire garden parties at night, and was aware he was doing it and that it was not right. Not a dream. It frightened him quite a lot what was happening to his mind at the same time he was a bit fascinated by it. Later in illness people cannot separate out the reality from the hallucination at all. There is honestly no right. It is up to what works best. If she is upset, then try to deflect her to another subject, activity, drawing or anything. If she is calm then just ask her "Who are you seeing? I don't see who you do". Important thing is don't argue. You won't win.
Your profile, “I am caring for...”, lists AD and UTI. Is that right? Both of those can cause hallucinations. Has the UTI since been treated. If not, that's step one. And if she has AD, hallucinations are very common with it and the other neurodegenerative diseases.
Does she get upset, frightened or angry when she hears people talking about her? Does it upset you to the point of being stressed? If yes, notify her doctor about it. Otherwise try to change your approach. Maybe suggest you heard the comments also then try to redirect her. “Yea, they're talking about everyone but no one is listening to them, let's have lunch”, or whatever might work. Trying to convince her that what she hears isn't real won't work. You've probably noticed that.
Angel, the best thing anyone can tell you is this: if your loved one is happy & calm, you're doing everything right & she's fine. Don't try to fix what isn't broken. Don't argue with her; if she thinks the people on TV are talking to her, fine. UNLESS the TV people are upsetting her, then they're NOT speaking to HER, and turn the TV off.
The goal you have here is to keep her safe & calm. The whole scenario of caring for someone with dementia/ALZ is a very, very difficult thing to do. As I suggested to you yesterday, read up on this subject ........... everything you can get your hands on! That way, you'll be better prepared for what you face with your loved one.
Baby proof the house. Remove chemicals from under the sink or lock them up with a cabinet lock. Don't give her access to the stove. Install locks high up on the doors to the outside of the house so she can't get out and wander away at night. Things like that you DO need to know so you can prepare yourself and keep her safe & sound if you don't want to place her in Memory Care.
We can help you here with suggestions and advice, but the best thing you can do is educate yourself about what you're doing and how to care for someone with dementia. The Teepa Snow videos on YouTube will help you learn how to talk to her, how to use a maneuver called the hand-under-hand technique, as a guiding and assisting technique that provides caregivers with an amazing connection. It promotes a physical touch connection that is friendly, comforting and attention-getting without being intrusive or overbearing. The link below will teach you how to use that technique to help your loved one get dressed:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Wn1OEfQt0ow
Lots of GREAT stuff by Teepa Snow to help you learn how to care give to the best of your ability, and to connect with your loved one properly.
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
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Does she get upset, frightened or angry when she hears people talking about her? Does it upset you to the point of being stressed? If yes, notify her doctor about it. Otherwise try to change your approach. Maybe suggest you heard the comments also then try to redirect her. “Yea, they're talking about everyone but no one is listening to them, let's have lunch”, or whatever might work. Trying to convince her that what she hears isn't real won't work. You've probably noticed that.
The goal you have here is to keep her safe & calm. The whole scenario of caring for someone with dementia/ALZ is a very, very difficult thing to do. As I suggested to you yesterday, read up on this subject ........... everything you can get your hands on! That way, you'll be better prepared for what you face with your loved one.
Baby proof the house. Remove chemicals from under the sink or lock them up with a cabinet lock. Don't give her access to the stove. Install locks high up on the doors to the outside of the house so she can't get out and wander away at night. Things like that you DO need to know so you can prepare yourself and keep her safe & sound if you don't want to place her in Memory Care.
We can help you here with suggestions and advice, but the best thing you can do is educate yourself about what you're doing and how to care for someone with dementia. The Teepa Snow videos on YouTube will help you learn how to talk to her, how to use a maneuver called the hand-under-hand technique, as a guiding and assisting technique that provides caregivers with an amazing connection. It promotes a physical touch connection that is friendly, comforting and attention-getting without being intrusive or overbearing. The link below will teach you how to use that technique to help your loved one get dressed:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Wn1OEfQt0ow
Lots of GREAT stuff by Teepa Snow to help you learn how to care give to the best of your ability, and to connect with your loved one properly.
Wishing you all the best!