knowing i had a morgage and home of my own she offered to pay me she also had planned to hire someone on the weekends but when her health to a quick decline i had to do the weekends to my brother is P.O.A and dont want to leave work to care for her but thinks i can do it although she has the income to do what me and her had agreed to.
You don't "have" to do anything you don't want to do.
And caregiving without having POA yourself is very unwise.
You don't have to do the weekends. Have her or your brother who is the POA hire someone and pay for it with her money, not yours.
I know you love your mom and want to help her. And you have very good intentions, but I have to agree with the others. Please think carefully about what you're doing. If your mother has money then I think it would be better to hire her a caregiver. I would hate to see you quit your job and then become resentful or angry with your mother in the future. Even if your mom is willing to compensate your financially, I think eventually the emotional toll would be too much.
Would you ever ask any of your children to quit their jobs and career to take care of you? That in my opinion is an unreasonable request.
RB, have you made any progress since?
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