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In bipolar disorder, the mood disturbances can be so severe that the individual loses touch with reality. He or she may feel suicidal when depressed, and when manic may engage in risky or self-destructive behavior such as refusing to eat (hunger strikes) and blowing their money.
Also, one of Depakote's side-effects is stomach upset. That's probably the reason she's refusing to eat. What you can do is make sure she takes it whole WITH A MEAL AT THE SAME TIME EACH DAY. Taking the doses too close together will exacerbate stomach upset, and in time she might begin to believe Depakote is a form of punishment or that you're trying to kill her. Even if she feels well, continue to take it. Depakote works best when there is a constant level of it in your body. Keep us posted.
Phew! At least she's off that nasty Depa. ... Anyway, you mentioned severe depression and that she doesn't want to die. At first I thought the severe depression had taken away her will to live and that by not eating she'd speed up her demise. When we are young and get depressed, we can find reasons to fight depression but if you are old, sick and severely depressed, losing the will to live and not eating aren't unusual.
Perhaps she needs attention or a little more TLC -- to go along with the food. Or it might be because it hurts to swallow, that she's feeling ill all the time, or that she can't get what she really wants to eat. The only advice I can offer is to get early medical help --hospital fluid drip -- and hope that she sees a light at the end of the tunnel instead of their own demise.
She might be feeling devalued and without control, so talk with her; often. In the meantime, let her know she's an important part of your life and that her refusal to eat hurts you. One of the most painful things is watching one of your loved ones unravel before your eyes and there's almost nothing you can do about it. We can't save people from themselves, but we can at least keep negotiating and hope they come around.
Hi Ed: She was on the Depakote for almost two years. She only recently within the last few months started refusing to eat. She has lost over 40 lbs. now. She is severly depressed and knows she has to eat to live - yet still refuses and insists she does not want to die. They took her off depakote 3 weeks ago. It is a nightmare. How can we get her to eat? Is there anything that stimulates the appetite? Deano
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
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APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
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I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information").
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In bipolar disorder, the mood disturbances can be so severe that the individual loses touch with reality. He or she may feel suicidal when depressed, and when manic may engage in risky or self-destructive behavior such as refusing to eat (hunger strikes) and blowing their money.
Also, one of Depakote's side-effects is stomach upset. That's probably the reason she's refusing to eat. What you can do is make sure she takes it whole WITH A MEAL AT THE SAME TIME EACH DAY. Taking the doses too close together will exacerbate stomach upset, and in time she might begin to believe Depakote is a form of punishment or that you're trying to kill her. Even if she feels well, continue to take it. Depakote works best when there is a constant level of it in your body. Keep us posted.
-- ED
Phew! At least she's off that nasty Depa. ... Anyway, you mentioned severe depression and that she doesn't want to die. At first I thought the severe depression had taken away her will to live and that by not eating she'd speed up her demise. When we are young and get depressed, we can find reasons to fight depression but if you are old, sick and severely depressed, losing the will to live and not eating aren't unusual.
Perhaps she needs attention or a little more TLC -- to go along with the food. Or it might be because it hurts to swallow, that she's feeling ill all the time, or that she can't get what she really wants to eat. The only advice I can offer is to get early medical help --hospital fluid drip -- and hope that she sees a light at the end of the tunnel instead of their own demise.
She might be feeling devalued and without control, so talk with her; often. In the meantime, let her know she's an important part of your life and that her refusal to eat hurts you. One of the most painful things is watching one of your loved ones unravel before your eyes and there's almost nothing you can do about it. We can't save people from themselves, but we can at least keep negotiating and hope they come around.
-- ED
She was on the Depakote for almost two years. She only recently within the last few months started refusing to eat. She has lost over 40 lbs. now. She is severly depressed and knows she has to eat to live - yet still refuses and insists she does not want to die. They took her off depakote 3 weeks ago. It is a nightmare. How can we get her to eat? Is there anything that stimulates the appetite?
Deano