I read I should concentrate on calories. She can still chew ok, but has a hard time swallowing. I make her smoothies. I'm running out of ideas.
And another thing, she sleeps all the time. I wake her up but she just falls back to sleep. I don't know if too much sleep is ok or bad.
Speaking only for myself, when I am ready to go, I do just want to eat ice cream and sleep peacefully and slip out of this life. On another thread, we've been talking about our own personal fears of having no one there for us when we are in this place in our journey. I personally do not want to eat anything I don't want to eat. Definitely talk with her doctor and maybe you could talk with someone who could give you support in this hard time. Peace and good wishes.
Bless you and keep us posted. If she is getting near the end of her life, give her permission to take that last journey, as my husband did just a month ago. He kept talking about the gate being open, not because animals were getting out, the gate was just open and I finally realized he was talking about the gate being open to heaven; I just said, "Honey, if that gate is open and you see Jesus coming for you, just go with Him. I love you, and it's o.k. for you to go with Him now or when you're ready." He died the next morning. Love, blessings and prayers for all the caregivers out there. You are awesome!
• One can of Ensure, any flavor (Ensure comes in vanilla, chocolate, strawberry, coffee, butter pecan, eggnog and black walnut)
• One-half cup of ice cream, flavor complementary to Ensure flavor
• 2 oz. Polycose (colorless, odorless, tasteless liquid with high calories and no nutritional value, found near baby formula)
Put in blender and add any of the following according to taste:
• Banana
• Fresh or frozen strawberries
• Any fresh fruit
• Chocolate syrup
• Honey
• Any flavoring
• Oreo cookies or any other cookies like chocolate chip, graham crackers, vanilla wafers
Blend well and enjoy! For weight gain have two shakes a day in addition to regular meals.
Mom was rushed to the hospital with a very rapid heart beat and pain in the upper chest, back and going up the throat. She was hospitalized for 3 days while they got her heart beat back to a normal rate.
I had told them about the eating and Megace and the fact that when she ate she had bloating and a stomach ache of sorts but none of us put 2 and 2 together. Mom was having a gallbladder attack and it mimicked a heart attack. They increased her heart meds and we are having to pull them back down as her coumadin was way too much and her Taztia for heartbeat had been doubled and now she has swollen feet, ankles and lower legs and gained 5 pounds from water weight. All because I thought she needed to eat and she was not eating because she was getting sick but not telling me what was going on. She hates to go to the doctor and HATES THE HOSPITAL WITH A PASSION, ALTHOUGH I MUST SAY IT IS A BLESSING WHEN YOU NEED IT!!!!!!!!
I have said all this because many times there are reasons behind the behavior we just don't see the full picture. I jumped on something and by increasing her eating I think I may have made the gallbladder issue worse and now I am fighting like a crazy person to correct the matter!!!
Be careful!!!!!
I heard somewhere that if you don't eat you don't get hungry. Still trying to figure that one out.
Anyway, since sweets don't seem to be an issue, try this: flan and tembleque. They are two types of sinful Puerto Rican custards that can become an addiction you won't want to give up. Google them. Although you might find them at the supermarket, you'll save $ by making them yourself.
Bon appetit!
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