So, mom, 81, can only do light housework now after a stroke 2 years ago and dad, 86, helps half heartedly sweep amd mop (if you want to call it that), peel vegetables amd helps mom into tub etc. They both do not want me or my sisters to help. They can do it! Dad had a heart attack 2 days ago (waiting for stents). We have talked to mom about getting help from us or gov paid helpers to come in and help them. The little that dad did to help, will now be non existant. She still said yesterday that she doesn't want help. I think my sisters and I are going to go ahead and contact social development tomorrow and start the process for workers to come to their house to help with light housework, cooking, bathing. We will pick up the pieces when the time comes. We have talked to our parents in the past....they just shut down and said no help? We knew this day would come and here we are stressing about it. I will show my sisters any replies or suggestions
Do Mum and Dad have their paperwork in order? POA, financial and healthcare and not assigned to each other? Are their Wills up to date? If they have a trusted lawyer, now is the time for him/her to have a conversation with them about long term plans.
Which of your parents is primarily responsible for the bill paying? I am guessing Dad. What would have happened to Mum if he had died of the heart attack? How would she have managed the bills?
This is the perfect time to step up and step in. I wish you the best!