A fter 5 years of me doing 24 hour care went to his VA Doctor and ask for help big mistake. So it took 6 months but got a company through them and within 4 months my husband has kicked me out took away my car and gave it to is hired caregiver has given her money every month and paid her rent this month my husband is a Veteran and we live on a fixed income this woman is totally doing the sweetheart scam and I can't do a thing about it I've reported it to her company the VA and because I'm just his wife I have no say who cares for him what.can I do please help
If they are in Georgia, he can. Georgia is not a community property state and is a "no fault" divorce state.
The outlet that I see is to have him declared incompetent. Then you can get guardianship and kick out the caregiver. His doctor must be willing to declare him incompetent.
No one is a perfect spouse or caregiver, but unless you were criminally abusive of him, please do not let any guilt you have, false or real, stop you from claiming what is rightfully yours.
It does looks to me that you are victim of yourself, as you said. How long have you lived in this house with your husband? You didn't make it clear, but sounds like it's your place as well. It's not up to him. No matter how nice the woman is, she must care about you as well because you are his wife. You can complain about this to the care agency, and they could help you. As far as giving her the car to use is fine, but not to keep. If you say it is yours, you do not have to sign it over. However if it is legally his, you don't have anything to say about it.
It does looks to me that you are victim of yourself, as you said. How long have you lived in this house with your husband? You didn't make it clear, but sounds like it's your place as well. It's not up to him. No matter how nice the woman is, she must care about you as well because you are his wife. You can complain about this to the care agency, and they could help you. As far as giving her the car to use is fine, but not to keep. If you say it is yours, you do not have to sign it over. However if it is legally his, you don't have anything to say about it.
Many people who develop MS also develop cognitive impairment or dementia. Has he had an evaluation by a psychiatrist? Try to get a reputable caregiver company to have a Psych nurse or social worker come in and do an evaluation.
Are you his Health Care Proxy or POA? IF so, that gives you more clout.
Do not move out of the house. It's YOUR house. Invite a friend or relative to stay there with you for a while. Complain to the caretaker company. Hire a new caretaker. That would definitely put a damper on the situation. (I know you're tired, but if you don't get help and fight for what's yours, you could end up homeless.
You need to get her out of the house! She definitely won't stay if you and someone else are there. She does not want you there. She is trying to establish residency and convince your husband to marry her and get it all.
There is the Dept of Veterans Affairs Office of the Inspector General.
Courtesy of another Federal employee and veteran promoting honesty and ethics in Federal service
Further, it is absolutely against Federal contractor policies to accept gifts or services from clients. It is not ethical, either from a medical ethics point of view or Federal law. It is a violation of Dept of VA provider requirements as well.
Further, it is absolutely against Federal contractor policies to accept gifts or services from clients. It is not ethical, either from a medical ethics point of view or Federal law. It is a violation of Dept of VA provider requirements as well.
Could it be that hubby offered your car so that the Caregiver could run an errand and she took advantage of that offer? Did the Caregiver give a sob story about she can't make next month's rent and thought he was doing her a favor? Sounds like you took offense to what he did, I would have too, and there was a serious discussion that resulted in a major blowup. Words were said, he wanted you to leave because he couldn't.
When was the last time you spoke to your husband? Call when you know the Caregiver isn't there and ask if he is ok, and if he needs any help. Misunderstandings can take on a life of their own.
Wifey has left the home. He needs a caretaker. There's a very uncomfortable bed been made here. Frankly, even if she went to the lady's job? What is the lady doing wrong? It's not breaking any laws to accept gifts from one's patients. In fact, I'd venture to say it's done often.
Her problem is with her husband. Not the care giver.