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HELP. I have a sister who arrived unannounced on a Monday night thinking I was at my grandson’s birthday. She mentioned taking him to Hawaii for a few weeks. She started screaming at me because her last visit in May, she showed up unannounced and tried taking over the stocks, his wallet went missing, told the bank she was his lawyer and tried having me removed as POA. I have lived with him 10 years and he has shown cognitive decline since 2016. I went to the police and filed a report for the missing wallet. She told the police he was going on a vacation and she was just visiting for a few days. I went downstairs and he was gone. She did not take his cane or walker but took all the checkbooks. His Passport and accounting books. I have called APS in both California and Boston, talked to a social worker, his doctor and nurse. I have tried several lawyers. I thought the elder attorney we paid $5,500 covered these issues. One only did a will and trust. Another wanted a retainer of $7,500. I am in Boston so it takes couple days for people to get in touch with you. The police called her last Saturday and she stated that he lives with her every winter. He has never lived with her. Her husband called me a psycho bitch and said George lived with us last winter. They will not let me speak with my father. The nurse said he sounded happy and when she asked him if he was spending the winter there he said no. My sister then started screaming, "Yes he is spending the winter here!" I did a wellness check last week. I am still trying to get a Lawyer I feel comfortable with. I will have to file for guardianship. I have lived with him for 10 years. He visited her twice in 13 years for a week because I asked her to give me a break.

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Because time is so important in such a situation and an existing POA is given preferential treatment, I would pay the retainer and file for emergency guardianship/conservatorship. If you then actually win full GS/CS you should get reimbursed from you father's money for the legal costs or possibly even from sister and her husband.
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KNance72 Oct 2022
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Banks have their own PoA process. Even if your sister takes your Dad to the bank in person impersonating his "lawyer" to go through their protocol, they will get suspicious if he seems "incapacitated" cognitively. This isn't their first rodeo. If he banked locally to you, I'd be calling that bank up immediately and let them know what is going on so that other branches will be aware of the possibility of fraud/theft. If you are his PoA then you can lock up his accounts and inform other investment accounts.
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KNance72 Oct 2022
Yes I Notified his bank and a freeze is on the account . I Cant believe this is Happening . They Keep saying to me " We took care of him Last winter ? " He Had a stroke and was recovering all year . I feel like I am dealing with criminals . Thanks .
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KNance72, curious, what is your sister reason for wanting to have her Dad with her?

Follow the advice of the Elder Law Attorney. If you keep jumping from attorney to attorney, you will find yourself at square one, and handing over another retainer.
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KNance72 Oct 2022
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You can get him a guardian and remove BOTH of you from the chaos; ask for help through the Elder Law Attorney.
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KNance72, Elder Law Attorneys should also handle elder abuse and fraud recovery cases.

Retainer fees are required in cases that involve litigation, or potential litigation. I am surprised you haven't had any luck in finding an Attorney to handle this case. Have you contacted any large firms in Boston?
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KNance72 Oct 2022
Yes I have contacted large law firms . This Guy Supernaut and Bernanski doesn't deal with these issues - I was very surprised . I will call a Senior Legal aide and get advice Monday .
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