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I. How We Work in Washington. Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services. APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid. We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour. APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
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My Mama started to go wandering to the neighbors at night. It was part of her sundowning. Many people have said on here that they had loved ones want to go home. But the person meant home to where they grew up. Parents house, full of brothers or sisters. This is what my Mom started to say. I want to go home to Mothers. After about 6 years in, we were standing in the kitchen in her own house and she said"This is so amazing! We are not in my house but this looks just like my kitchen." She would go to the neighbors, they would call me and I would go get her. She would tell me "No, I'm not going with you, my Mother is coming to take me home." She just had a fall and is in Memory care now. We tried re directing, "fibblets", (little white lies), etc. I finally learned to just say "Your Mom is on a trip with her sisters", etc. We used to say everybody has passed away in the beginning. It took me several years to decide to fib. It stops tears and sadness for her. She was a Sunday School teacher for 50 years but I believe in this situation, God forgives me! This is hard. You just have to make things up. It saves them so much fresh heartache from always saying you can't go there, they are all gone. Unfortunately, this happens Everytime I see her. You are not alone in this. It's HARD! Grace and Peace.
"Home" is where things are simple and happy and safe. While your wife may be remembering her childhood home, I believe "home" is also a state of mind. Being cared for by her mom and a sense of security.
You can try to divert your wife's attention when she starts saying that she wants to go home. Bring her a snack or turn on a movie she enjoys. If she continues to say that she wants to go home you can make excuses why she can't go home right then. Maybe no one's home at that time or you can't find the house key. You can say, "We can't go today but let's see how tomorrow looks." Any of these tactics may not be effective and may only buy you a few minutes of peace but eventually you wife's desire to go home will cease.
I have tried every thing you suggest and more. Thus has been going on for over a year and my husband gets so agitated on some nights that I have now had to call 911 on 4 occasions in the last two months. There is no money to place him. I had to sell our home "as is" and got almost nothing for it - We do not qualify for any help at all-not one program-because we have just a little too much retirement/social security income and other than severe dementia, he is not sick. Am now having to file bankruptcy just to pay his bills and don't even know how I will do that.
She1934, we are in the same situation. My husband doesn’t have dementia, but he is bedridden. I filed for Bankruptcy on Tuesday. You have to have an attorney on board to file for you. At this point, I’m not sure even that will help us. Our house would have to be sold “as is” too and as homes in our development can be for sale for over a year that’s not even feasible. The idea of a tiny, low-income apartment with his giant hospital bed and durable medical equipment stuffed into it is terrifying. Plus I’d have to rehome my dog if anyone would even take her.
I applied for a Medicaid Waiver. It’s in limbo right now as I’ve been busy with this bankruptcy process. But I was told we needed to open a Qualified Income Trust or a Miller Trust. Any amount of income over the Medicaid Limit goes into that account monthly. Then he would qualify for aid. Please call your local Medicaid office and ask for help.
Sorry to say the behavioral Geriatric Psych Hospital Unit just called to tell me that in 1 1/2 weeks, they still cannot stop or redirect my mother from trying to escape and "Go Home To Mothers." Um...I'll pray for all of us today.
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
VI. No Waiver of Your Rights.
APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
I agree that:
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I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information").
B.
APFM may provide information to me electronically. My electronic signature on agreements and documents has the same effect as if I signed them in ink.
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APFM may send all communications to me electronically via e-mail or by access to an APFM web site.
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If I want a paper copy, I can print a copy of the Disclosures or download the Disclosures for my records.
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This E-Sign Acknowledgement and Authorization applies to these Disclosures and all future Disclosures related to APFM's services, unless I revoke my authorization. You may revoke this authorization in writing at any time (except where we have already disclosed information before receiving your revocation.) This authorization will expire after one year.
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You consent to APFM's reaching out to you using a phone system than can auto-dial numbers (we miss rotary phones, too!), but this consent is not required to use our service.
You can try to divert your wife's attention when she starts saying that she wants to go home. Bring her a snack or turn on a movie she enjoys. If she continues to say that she wants to go home you can make excuses why she can't go home right then. Maybe no one's home at that time or you can't find the house key. You can say, "We can't go today but let's see how tomorrow looks." Any of these tactics may not be effective and may only buy you a few minutes of peace but eventually you wife's desire to go home will cease.
I applied for a Medicaid Waiver. It’s in limbo right now as I’ve been busy with this bankruptcy process. But I was told we needed to open a Qualified Income Trust or a Miller Trust. Any amount of income over the Medicaid Limit goes into that account monthly. Then he would qualify for aid. Please call your local Medicaid office and ask for help.