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THE DAY....Taking Mother to the Nursing Home......She is 90yrs, Dementia, My husband will keep daddy busy for the day. Dad is "onboard", and understands the need.
It's such a personal decision...and yes, the MOST painful thing I've ever done too. It hurts even though I know I don't have the resources/facility to keep her with me, and I also know she is UNSAFE being home alone...it's still tough. She was forced into rehab (skilled nursing) due to a fracture. it's been 2 months, 3 Emergency hospital stays (pneumonia and anemia), and she IS doing much better. However, she HATES it (and tells me daily). I KNOW she's getting good care, good food, companionship, and nursing support. She's being cared for so much better than I could give her. I would ask this question to you: what's best for your parent? I would also add that the SNF is much better than I imagined. But even with all that, it's SAD. It's just plain sad, heart-wrenching to watch a once vibrant person age...It's ok to cry. I have met the most wonderful people who live in the SNF, you'd be surprised how happy people can be when they know they are safe. I'm sad for all of us caregivers too. It's like a constant storm cloud over our hearts. I'm grateful for this website because it's the best source of info/support I've found.
Crissy: I am anticipating this myself. We need advice from the more experienced bloggers. I can only think of how i felt when they put me in rehab- awful, lonely and abandoned. Lets see who answers this question. Hugs to you Crissy. Come to think of it rehab wasn`t so bad after a week or so and i made a lot of friends. tonio
Today was probably the worst day of my life. I had to put my mom into a nursing home. Her dementia had progressed over the past two years that she came to live with me. I've been crying for weeks just knowing that this day would come soon. There's no easy way to do this.
I understand some may not like this answer but my Mom is 90 and in my home with dementia. She cannot walk, talk, barely see, is incontinent, and we spoil her daily. I am here to feed her, keep her clean, put music on for her, hold her hand and sing her to sleep. I wouldnt have it any other way. Yes its hard, but I use her small ss for another caretaker so that I can get out and have a break also. Dementia is a lonely disease, if you can handle it, I say keep them home. Good Luck!
This was a necessary transition for my mom as she was in Assisted Living and her hallucinations became so disturbing to her and others, as well as continual incontinence. It was a difficult walk from the AL down the hall to the secure facility, and I had to be the one to wheel her chair through the door. She is very happy there. My dad lives in the AL and gets to visit her any time he wants.
Oops, forgot to answer your question: I'd bring a personal blanket and a SNUGGIE (good for wheelchair covering), maybe some personal items, depending on what she likes: brightly colored soxs are fun. I'd reassure her that you'll be closely watching and helping her get adjusted. One thing to be aware of and prepare for: BIBS! Many of the folks at our SNF can feed themselves, but they sometimes spill food so they are offered terry cloth bibs to wear at mealtimes. This really freaked me out for some reason but it makes sense. I used a bib for Mom at home, so I don't know why I was caught off guard by this.
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
VI. No Waiver of Your Rights.
APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
I agree that:
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I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information").
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APFM may provide information to me electronically. My electronic signature on agreements and documents has the same effect as if I signed them in ink.
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APFM may send all communications to me electronically via e-mail or by access to an APFM web site.
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If I want a paper copy, I can print a copy of the Disclosures or download the Disclosures for my records.
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This E-Sign Acknowledgement and Authorization applies to these Disclosures and all future Disclosures related to APFM's services, unless I revoke my authorization. You may revoke this authorization in writing at any time (except where we have already disclosed information before receiving your revocation.) This authorization will expire after one year.
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You consent to APFM's reaching out to you using a phone system than can auto-dial numbers (we miss rotary phones, too!), but this consent is not required to use our service.
It hurts even though I know I don't have the resources/facility to keep her with me, and I also know she is UNSAFE being home alone...it's still tough. She was forced into rehab (skilled nursing) due to a fracture. it's been 2 months, 3 Emergency hospital stays (pneumonia and anemia), and she IS doing much better. However, she HATES it (and tells me daily). I KNOW she's getting good care, good food, companionship, and nursing support. She's being cared for so much better than I could give her. I would ask this question to you: what's best for your parent? I would also add that the SNF is much better than I imagined. But even with all that, it's SAD. It's just plain sad, heart-wrenching to watch a once vibrant person age...It's ok to cry. I have met the most wonderful people who live in the SNF, you'd be surprised how happy people can be when they know they are safe. I'm sad for all of us caregivers too. It's like a constant storm cloud over our hearts. I'm grateful for this website because it's the best source of info/support I've found.
Take a favorite blanket and some unvaluable personal things to make her feel at home. I didn't do that.
It was the hardest thing I have ever done.