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Are they going to give her any kind of treatment? If so, then the battle has just begun, and its not over by a long shot. If they are not going to do anything, then you have to make the most of the time she has. Even though the doctors can make an educated guess as to how long we have to live when diagnosed with a fatal illness, only God truly knows when our time will be up. The mind is a powerful piece to our existence and miracles happen every day! Try to keep her positive, and don't focus on how much time is left. Take one day at a time, making each day the best day. I will keep you both in my prayers.
If true, you could say, "I love you. This is a hard time for me, and I know it is devastating for you. I'm here for you. Is there anything I can do to better support you?" Frequent lingering hugs are comforting and emotionally healing as well. There is nothing wrong with being emotionally vulnerable. It helps with healing the raw emotions and helps lead to greater acceptance and serenity.
I can just imagine that you and your Mom are just in shock - numbed by the news. I'm sorry you are both going through this difficulty in your lives. May you find daily strength to face the journey that lies ahead.
Take some time to breathe, cry, and be still. Allow your spirit to lead the way. Serenity helps. Keep sharing. There are so many caring caregivers on this site!
"When we validate someone, we allow them to safely share their feelings and thoughts. We are reassuring them that it is okay to have the feelings they have. We are demonstrating that we will still accept them after they have shared their feelings. We let them know that we respect their perception of things at that moment. We help them feel heard, acknowledged, understood and accepted.
Sometimes validation entails listening, sometimes it is a nod or a sign of agreement or understanding, sometimes it can be a hug or a gentle touch. Sometimes it means being patient when the other person is not ready to talk. "
Don't try to fix their feelings. Be fully present with them without feeling like you always have to have something to say. Give them some supportive physical touch like a hug or holding their hand.
Tell them you are truly sorry for their news and encourage them to get all the help they can however they choose to handle it and listen to them and let them vent be hopeful but not dismissive of the truth of their situation and their feelings about it. We may very well all be there one day.
Whatever the situation might be--Support is very very important---if possible just be there for that special person, and let them vent. You also may want to get another opinion on this terrible diagnosis. Whatever the case the case may be-support/compassion most likely will work the bst in my opinion. Counceling may alos be another option to turn to~ Best to you and yours, Hap
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
VI. No Waiver of Your Rights.
APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
I agree that:
A.
I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information").
B.
APFM may provide information to me electronically. My electronic signature on agreements and documents has the same effect as if I signed them in ink.
C.
APFM may send all communications to me electronically via e-mail or by access to an APFM web site.
D.
If I want a paper copy, I can print a copy of the Disclosures or download the Disclosures for my records.
E.
This E-Sign Acknowledgement and Authorization applies to these Disclosures and all future Disclosures related to APFM's services, unless I revoke my authorization. You may revoke this authorization in writing at any time (except where we have already disclosed information before receiving your revocation.) This authorization will expire after one year.
F.
You consent to APFM's reaching out to you using a phone system than can auto-dial numbers (we miss rotary phones, too!), but this consent is not required to use our service.
I can just imagine that you and your Mom are just in shock - numbed by the news. I'm sorry you are both going through this difficulty in your lives. May you find daily strength to face the journey that lies ahead.
Take some time to breathe, cry, and be still. Allow your spirit to lead the way. Serenity helps. Keep sharing. There are so many caring caregivers on this site!
"When we validate someone, we allow them to safely share their feelings and thoughts. We are reassuring them that it is okay to have the feelings they have. We are demonstrating that we will still accept them after they have shared their feelings. We let them know that we respect their perception of things at that moment. We help them feel heard, acknowledged, understood and accepted.
Sometimes validation entails listening, sometimes it is a nod or a sign of agreement or understanding, sometimes it can be a hug or a gentle touch. Sometimes it means being patient when the other person is not ready to talk. "
Don't try to fix their feelings. Be fully present with them without feeling like you always have to have something to say. Give them some supportive physical touch like a hug or holding their hand.
You also may want to get another opinion on this terrible diagnosis.
Whatever the case the case may be-support/compassion most likely will work the bst in my opinion.
Counceling may alos be another option to turn to~
Best to you and yours,
Hap