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Get this one - my mom uses the toilet but when she's finished with her toilet paper, she carries it to the kitchen garbage can! All day, every day, when she comes out of the bathroom with the paper in her hand, I have to say "go back in the bathroom, throw the toilet paper in th toilet and flush" She looks at me so bewildered (every single time) and says "in the toilet?" like that's a strange request. I say "yes, and wash your hands" and she says " I did wash my hands" which she did, but then she picks up the used toilet paper to throw in the garbage. I have to explain this to her all day. Ugh. I seriously am laughing at these situations now where before I would freak out...I'm learning to accept what I cannot change.
Make the toilet area as warm as possible, rugs on the floor, maybe a vinyl padded toilet seat would help....even painting the room a warm color will help warm it up in there. Good luck with this one.
Hi Sandy---This sure does sound strange-but for a person with dementia--perhaps it is not. I am not a professional, and lost my Mom to complications of AD..Just do your very best, and see if you can reach out to others -which is what you are doing-and get some ideas and answers. The 24/7 helpline number for the Alz Assoc is (800) 272-3900. Best to you on your cargiving journey~ Hap!
Could you be more specific: Do you mean refusing to go, or going elsewhere? As a single parent with my son for many years, I draw on those mothering skills to help my 2nd husband who has Alzheimer's. It's like explaining things for the first time, each time. Takes great patience, respect and creativity to find the right solution for This Time.
Talk to her doctor. The hygiene issue could start making her ill. is she holding in or letting out in the bed or chair? Gonna be a retraining issue if it is not medially based...Ask her what is wrong, why she wont go. It may be something like a fear of falling or the seat is too cold...
This may sound strange, but my mother wanted a little tv in her bathroom. It does help. Of course, the usual things need to be considered too as the others have mentioned. I even stay longer in the bathroom with the tv there. Good luck. Karen
I don't know what the exact issues are that you are having with your mother, but I know that the bedside commode made a big difference for my Mom and Dad. They mostly use it at night and I sometimes bring it into the living area during the day if I know they are having some issues that day. My opinion is that it is better to clean out of the pot rather than out of the pants. If you can be more specific about your Mom's issues we may be able to offer some better advise......Good Luck and God Bless
Thanx to all who offered suggestions on what to do with a mother who refuses to use the toilet. The question was meant to be "once led to the toilet, how can one gently have her sit down to do her business".
The person who suggested "retraining", well, that's rediculous. The brain is being shredded with Alzheimer's, so unlike children, Alzheimer's people can't be trained. But I do get the gentle handling of them.
My sister and I have recently found that handing her grandma's (her monther's) picture and calling on granny to help us, that we have experienced some success.
Need to be more specific as to why she refuses to use the toilet? When my mom broke her hip they initially put her in pull ups; even when she was able to get out of bed and supposed to go to the toilet she said "it was more convenient" for her to just use the pullups, instead of going to the toilet. I spoke with the CNA's at rehab and they made it a point to get her out of bed to use the toilet. She insisted that the pullups were 'just so much easier for her"; basically she didn't want to be bothered getting out of bed (even though she was capable) and going to the toilet. So we need to know why your mom refuses to use the toilet. Thanks.
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
VI. No Waiver of Your Rights.
APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
I agree that:
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I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information").
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APFM may provide information to me electronically. My electronic signature on agreements and documents has the same effect as if I signed them in ink.
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APFM may send all communications to me electronically via e-mail or by access to an APFM web site.
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If I want a paper copy, I can print a copy of the Disclosures or download the Disclosures for my records.
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This E-Sign Acknowledgement and Authorization applies to these Disclosures and all future Disclosures related to APFM's services, unless I revoke my authorization. You may revoke this authorization in writing at any time (except where we have already disclosed information before receiving your revocation.) This authorization will expire after one year.
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You consent to APFM's reaching out to you using a phone system than can auto-dial numbers (we miss rotary phones, too!), but this consent is not required to use our service.
Best to you on your cargiving journey~
Hap!
As a single parent with my son for many years, I draw on those mothering skills to help my 2nd husband who has Alzheimer's. It's like explaining things for the first time, each time. Takes great patience, respect and creativity to find the right solution for This Time.
The person who suggested "retraining", well, that's rediculous. The brain is being shredded with Alzheimer's, so unlike children, Alzheimer's people can't be trained. But I do get the gentle handling of them.
My sister and I have recently found that handing her grandma's (her monther's) picture and calling on granny to help us, that we have experienced some success.
Again, thanx to all for the suggestions.