she has delusions that her dreams are real. the neuro prescibed zyproxen! Seroqui. Seroquil messed her up 12.5 mg she weighs 225 lbs now zyproxen makes her gain weight I wigh 115I am her primary caretaker 24/7 no relieve no help no vacations.She has become aggessive and mean she has not been properly diagnosed department of children and families in now involved because she soved our 5 yr old grand son down on the floor. we have custody of 5 grandchildren for 5 years . when she is acting out she has no recall . my father and her were in a very serious car accident which killed my father and mom sustained a serioud frontal head injury.I believe she has LBD she has chf/kidney disease/a fractured back from a fall 10/15
Mom needs to be in an appropriate care center. She is now beyond a status that can be cared for in a private home. I am so sorry. I can understand why you want to care for her personally, but that is just not feasible. If her needs are being met in a care center, then you can visit her as the loving daughter.
It may not be safe to navigate through the house when you must wake up in the night to use the bathroom because you are extremely groggy under Seroquel, and navigating on foot under sedation is definitely not safe. What I do before taking the pill at bedtime to help me sleep is have a power chair handy by the bed. That way, I don't risk being unsteady on my feet and falling due to sedation. Another alternative would be to keep a bedside toilet for the patient to use and everything they need such as moist wipes to clean their hands. Seroquel is a very strong sedative that should not be used at any other time but bedtime. If you read the bottle, you will see that it causes drowsiness. It says not to drive or operate dangerous machinery, but if using a power chair, dial the speed all the way down to a low setting to keep the patient safe while navigating to and from the bathroom while under sedation.
Ask the doctor if she can have depakote sprinkles, its wonderful and you dont have to place your mom
She will be real tired at first but it will level off in a few weeks. Good luck
Mum was a bank manager at a time when women weren't so her road was hard nosed and when she wanted something doing her staff did it - immediately. But she picked holes in her day to day l;if work and home as long as I could remember - I got 98% in a test and she stopped my pocket money because I didn't get 100% - that sort of thing. Of course over time she didn't have to beat me up (not in physical terms) I could do that very nicely for myself - learned behaviour is damned hard to break let me tell you
Yet when we went out my mum would have whatever everyone else had if we went to a restaurant. She was incapable of choosing for herself - ALWAYS. If we had steak she would, if we changed our minds and selected scampi she changed her mind. She absolutely HAD to have the same. If I eat exactly the sort of food she does she will eat it - she will complain - she always has but nowadays much more vociferously as if the control knob is broken.
I don't ask her to choose these days because it is pointless, (well not strictly true I still ask but end up choosing myself since she always says whatever you're having - not that she means that but it is what she says) but I do like variety and she just doesn't....... I love British food but I do like French cuisine, Italian, Chinese, Spanish, Indian, West Indian foods too as well as hot dogs, burgers now and then and KFC which I have to ashamedly say is a serious weakness. I love broccoli she hates it, I like beans she hates them in any format. So unless I lose my entire identity by conforming to her food choices we have a battle on our hands.
She is absolutely self centred when it comes to her needs what she wants and she always wants it NOW. If it isn't forthcoming immediately then she can turn difficult beyond belief or attempt to do it herself, end up on the floor and then tell me it was my fault for not getting it for her....erm hello I only have one pair of hands and when I have them covered in flour you have to wait. Or not as the case may be!!!!!!
In all honesty while it DOES feel like her little tricks I DO think it is the dementia and the scariness of losing control bit by bit that leaves them desperate to find ways that they still have control over and irritating us does just seem to fit the bill - I assure they don't intentionally do so although on a bad day would deny having ever said any of this!!!!!