Recently my grandma has been insisting on having 2 cups of coffee every morning and without fail she can't make it in time and poops herself before she can sit on the toilet. It's insanely stressful and time consuming the clean up. 1-3 times a week this happens. She demands I give her the coffee for her energy, but if I took it away, she would stop having accidents. I just don't know what to do anymore.
I would cut out at least a cup and see what happens. I have cleaned up messes and gagged the whole time. If GrandMom not wearing pullups maybe she should. I found apple juice a problem too.
How about that second cup gets served in the bathroom. Just keep if pleasant, add a cafe table with book and puzzle, and pretend she's out for a cuppa.
Seriously I don't think I have an answer to this one.
My mother HAD to drink a glass of hot tap water immediately after getting up every morning, or she was sure everything would back up for all time. This started after she was prohibited from drinking her daily usual pot of coffee by a pesky ulcer.
The opposite, constipation is much worse and very harmful for the person suffering with it, so be very careful what you wish for.
Grandma should be able to have her 2 cups of coffee if she so chooses. You may want to just have a bedside commode nearby when she finishes her coffee, so she won't have to walk so far to use the bathroom, or it may just be time to hire an aide to come in(with her money)to assist her and clean her up if needed.
Does grandma at least wear a Depends so the poop is at least contained? If not I would start there.
Best wishes.
She might not even notice.
You can also add 1/2 decaffeinated coffee grounds to the regular grounds.
She should drink it and then go to the bathroom right after.
Or, take it in the bathroom, which was a good idea!
She gets the second cup after a BM.
"The doctor said, instead of giving up coffee all together, that you can have your coffee one hour apart to help your energy."
She may enjoy the new recipe:
1/2 cup coffee, 1/2 cup decaf coffee (grounds are mixed). Brew it.
Then add hot boiling water, up to 1/4 cup and no one will notice.
Make sure she is not having diarrhea.
I found this:
"Coffee served at a cooler temperature may not create the same poop problems as a piping hot cup."
"You’ll also want to ensure that your coffee has a low acid content. The acidity of coffee varies, but some coffee is made in a way that reduces acid. Low acid coffee makes a cup of joe easier on your stomach (and your toilet)."
Honestly you are too young to be having to take care of your grandmother. Live your life and tell your mom or grandma's childrwn they need to step up and take over her care.
Moop ☕💩😁
But if 2 cups causes a Moop Bio-Hazard
☕☕ = 💩💩💩💩 ☢️😭 I think it wise to reduce to ONE cup.
Now if Grandma makes her own coffee (independently) & does not reason the above equation - spell it out.
If she is not able to reason/comprehend & you are team clean-up - hide the coffee. Morning Coffee making becomes a *supervised activity*.
If you are making the coffee for Grandma - you are allowed to say no.
You could ask if Grandma feels constipated? Is she using coffee as a regulator? She could speak to her Pharmacist & probably get something milder for that. Eg Senna in the evenings.