Background is that my mother, his grandma, has Alzheimer's/ dementia but is very aware, incontinent, and sometimes sharp tongued. My dad, his grandpa is forgetful, legally blind, hearing impaired. Both have walking devices. We want them there but it is a 3 hour trip in an unfamiliar location. After a dinner outing it became clear to me that it would be unsafe to take them 3 hours away. I am conflicted as my siblings say they shouldn’t go but our hearts want them there. Thoughts?
The one about wearing their wedding outfits was sweet also but I couldn’t think how they could easily pull that off being so far away. Certainly not on the day of. The video could also have some greetings from other family members on it to the grandparents.
Could have a message from the bride and groom to them on it.
Would also be nice if someone could film the grandparents with them when they visit. Easy enough to do these days with cell phones.
I went to a wedding once where the minister (uncle of the bride) was in the hospital. The couple wanted to get married on the date that had significance for them so they had the very small wedding in the very small hospital room. Everyone was happy.
If you haven't told them, don't. You are lucky, family is backing you up. If they know, I wouldn't tell them they shouldn't go thats giving them an option. Tell them sorry but after your dinner outing there is no way they can do a 6 hour round trip. That as the Mother of the groom, you will not to be there for them.
Don't let your folks endanger their lives by attending a wedding they're not physically able to endure. Figure out something else you can do for them instead......I'm sure they'll appreciate the gesture.
Good luck!!
So many difficult situations with our elderly parents!