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It is a marriage of convenience she is from Thailand she has her permanent residency, we have put our dad in a nursing home and she doesn’t want anything to do with him now ,we can even get bank details from her to to him in permanent care what can we do .

Yet another second marriage problem. They are so common on the Forum.
If there is no POA, then wife is next of kin. Her lack of cooperation will weigh quite heavily on the assets of the marriage. And if she makes attempts to trounce on off with the marital assets it may help if you tell her that being jailed for elder abuse in this country is no joke and she may face immigration lawyers soon.

You will need, likely, eventually to see an Elder Law Attorney. You will there find out options and direction. BUT.............

You may first wish to try a call to Adult Protective Services. They may help you speak with the wife; she could be accused of abuse of an elder if she is hiding assets and such. You may get less costly direction and options from the APS than from an attorney, and it's worth a try certainly.

I am quite surprised that you "got" your father into ECF, even temporarily without having POA. The wife would be his next of kin. While there, of course, he will be accumulating debt. The bills will go to him; the wife will be responsible that they are being paid; judgement will eventually go to the courts, a home and his assets, her assets as well.

If the wife fully understands all this she may become more cooperative, esp. if she understands the daily costs accumulating, fears the law and deportation at all, or fears being jailed on charges of fraud and elder abuse.
Best of luck.
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Thanks for the information we are at our wits end
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Could your father file for divorce? She seemingly has abandoned him so I imagine getting a divorce would be fairly easy for him.
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Lawyer time, you need professional advice and likely a strongly worded threatening sounding letter delivered to wife
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lealonnie1 Nov 20, 2024
Perfect advice
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