Been away 4 months just came back to Mom's house, she is as bad as ever insisting on being appeased by assigning tasks, but I've navigated the perilous landscape of how to stay here and not have episodic behavior resulting in upset all the way round.
Additionally Mom hasn't showered since I left, I would imagine.
How have any of you approached this?
Thank You
Also, she won't just let someone else advise her on a clear way forward, she is sorta just stuck,
but now her physical smell, along with her steady decline is threatening to expose the house of cards she lives in. I need her to have a 2x/wk caregiver capable of all the things she needs done 2x per week, she wont do it, not the money, not anything but her own neurosis now combined w/dementia
She just won't listen
If she does, there is a looming possibility the caregiver will abandon or just sort of peter out in the position.
I'm obviously seeking professional counseling to gain skills I need to cope,
but,
she still needs a bath