Step-Grandfather has only me living in this country. He makes less than $12k/yr from Social Security and has no other assets. He fell in his home and was unable to move. We found him on the floor ~3days after he fell. He was unable to push himself up to call for help so he laid there for 3days. He had no broken bones and after 2 days in hospital he has improved. He was moved to In-Patient rehab to see if he can walk and live on his own. They have a 20day evaluation period (we are day 6 today and he has not walked on his own). The Social Services people are telling me about the possible next steps which are likely Gov't Nursing care because he is unlikely to be able to care for himself. They suggest I be his Durable POA but I really don't want to take that on, I feel at risk and exposed. I don't want to make decisions about his ongoing care or be responsible for his financial situation/debts. What happens if I don't do it?
Tell the SW you r not willing to take on POA. If there are children, give the SW their names and phone nos. If not, tell them the State will need to take over. You can not be forced to take on any responsibility.
POA does not mean ur responsible for debts personally. If there is no money, he can't pay debts.
But even if he did, you are under no obligation to agree to do the job. It is burdensome, and it is a major responsibility (although it will not make you financially responsible for him or his debts). No wonder Social Services would rather you did it than that they had to!
If need be, the state will apply for guardianship in due course. Whatever happens, your sGP will still have the rights of any other citizen which includes the right to a relationship with you. You will not be cast into the outer darkness for being realistic about your ability to contribute.
I wish you and your grandfather well. Hugs!
Not sure why you feel at risk and exposed. However if no family takes on responsibility the courts will.
Actually if he is going into permanent care it’s not that difficult. Sell house. Cancel utilities. Invest his money. Set up direct debit payments to care home.
Many older people don’t want their life prolonged. I’ve no idea if you’ve ever even chatted about what he’d like. For my uncle as long as pain free as much as possible, we refused any other medical intervention since he would have been distressed and confused by it.
However, should you still feel it’s something you’d rather avoid then courts will deal with those aspects.