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Things are getting more difficult in the day to day caregiving I provide for my wife. Trending downward with very few moments of clarity. Thinking about respite care before any long term assisted living.
I based the decision on ONE thing. SAFETY If it was no longer safe for ME to care for my Husband at home I would have had not option but to place him. If it was no longer safe for HIM for me to care for him at home then I would have had to place him. Safety is not just physical safety but all encompassing, this includes both Mental/emotional safety. Are you exhausted? Are you burnt out? Is the house safe?
There is an in between that might work. Can you get caregivers to come in and help out? Is there an Adult Day program that she can participate in that will give you a bit of time several days a week. Would she qualify for Hospice, with Hospice you would have a Nurse that would come every week, a CNA that would come several times a week to help out. Supplies and equipment would be provided. And Medicare pays for about 1 week of Respite each year for Hospice patients.
Your wife is passed an Assisted Living, she will need Memory Care if u have the money. Longterm care with Medicaid if you don't have money.
If you are considering placing your wife and have substantial assets, I suggest you see an Elder Lawyer to have your marital assets split, Medicaid allows this. Your wife's split will be spent down for her care and when gone you can apply for Medicaid. You get enough or all of ur monthly income to cover your living expenses.
When YOU can no longer care for your wife with dementia at home, for whatever reason(s), THEN it is time for her to be placed in Memory Care Assisted Living or Skilled Nursing. It's never an easy decision to make, but when things get TOO difficult to keep her at home, then you KNOW it's time for her to move into Memory Care. It's just that simple. You'll not be 'abandoning' her, just having her cared for in an appropriate environment that's geared FOR her specifically, and staffed by MANY people who are there specifically to look after her needs, 24/7. You can go see her daily, if you so desire. We should all be so lucky to be able to afford such an environment, should we require it in our old age!
She's not a candidate for assisted living. She needs memory care which is so much better all the way around for a patient with dementia issues.
Please don't burn yourself out any further. I'm convinced that caring for my mother led to my dad's early death. Caring for your loved one "in sickness and in health" doesn't mean you have to sacrifice your own health, because that doesn't benefit either of you.
You ARE caring for her by placing her where she can receive the best care possible, so please don't put it off. The key is the correct placement, and in her case, I'd say memory care is the correct one.
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
VI. No Waiver of Your Rights.
APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
I agree that:
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I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information").
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APFM may provide information to me electronically. My electronic signature on agreements and documents has the same effect as if I signed them in ink.
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APFM may send all communications to me electronically via e-mail or by access to an APFM web site.
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If I want a paper copy, I can print a copy of the Disclosures or download the Disclosures for my records.
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This E-Sign Acknowledgement and Authorization applies to these Disclosures and all future Disclosures related to APFM's services, unless I revoke my authorization. You may revoke this authorization in writing at any time (except where we have already disclosed information before receiving your revocation.) This authorization will expire after one year.
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You consent to APFM's reaching out to you using a phone system than can auto-dial numbers (we miss rotary phones, too!), but this consent is not required to use our service.
SAFETY
If it was no longer safe for ME to care for my Husband at home I would have had not option but to place him.
If it was no longer safe for HIM for me to care for him at home then I would have had to place him.
Safety is not just physical safety but all encompassing, this includes both Mental/emotional safety.
Are you exhausted?
Are you burnt out?
Is the house safe?
There is an in between that might work.
Can you get caregivers to come in and help out?
Is there an Adult Day program that she can participate in that will give you a bit of time several days a week.
Would she qualify for Hospice, with Hospice you would have a Nurse that would come every week, a CNA that would come several times a week to help out. Supplies and equipment would be provided. And Medicare pays for about 1 week of Respite each year for Hospice patients.
If you are considering placing your wife and have substantial assets, I suggest you see an Elder Lawyer to have your marital assets split, Medicaid allows this. Your wife's split will be spent down for her care and when gone you can apply for Medicaid. You get enough or all of ur monthly income to cover your living expenses.
Good luck.
Please don't burn yourself out any further. I'm convinced that caring for my mother led to my dad's early death. Caring for your loved one "in sickness and in health" doesn't mean you have to sacrifice your own health, because that doesn't benefit either of you.
You ARE caring for her by placing her where she can receive the best care possible, so please don't put it off. The key is the correct placement, and in her case, I'd say memory care is the correct one.