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I have Parkinson’s, Lewy Body Dementia and am 80yrs

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Hi Judy, my stepFIL had both of those, so I have a little understanding of your situation.

You can hire a moving company and they may be able to provide the muscle. Also check HomeAdvisor.com, Angieslist.com or Nextdoor.com for local help. If you have a senior center in your town you could contact them for names, or ask a trusted neighbor for people they may know.

Is your DH your full-time caregiver? Or are you getting in-home private or county help right now? These answers just help fill out what's going on.

Would you consider transitioning to a nice facility at this point instead? Even if you didn't have P/LBS it would still be my question to you. I'm a practical person and I understand people's deep desire to age-in-place. But eventually, unless science comes up with a cure for P/LBS and many other ills of seniority, you will need more and more help. Is your plan to have your husband take care of you until he can no longer? I don't mean to put you on the spot, but this forum is overflowing with laments from those with caregiver burnout, riddled with guilt because they can't give their loved ones what they want, which is 24/7 care in their homes. Often their health suffers as much or more.

Although I'm only 60 myself I have witnessed in my own family multiple times seniors who could have transitioned themselves to a care community of their own choosing in very "smooth" ways but waited and waited because they didn't think they "needed" it yet. In the end the family had to fight with and pry them out of their homes for their own good and cause all types of unnecessary drama and duress for themselves. It's great to have a "plan" but in so many cases people do not pull the trigger on their plan until it's way too late. All because they had a romanticized notion and unrealistic assumption about how their future years would play out. So, would you consider a more practical move, not just from upstairs to downstairs, but downsized and resettled for your sake and your husband's so that you have a smoother future? I'll get off my soapbox now! Wishing you wisdom and peace and much help!
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You can also contact the local area Agency on Aging and ask if there are any volunteer-based agencies who would help. A lot of cities have community service organizations who could move the furniture for you.
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The Alzheimers Assn. also provides lists of potential contractors, and is much quicker in responding than the AAA.  I've found the Jewish Welfare Services to be helpful as well.

Not to frighten you, but I'd try to find a company with reasonable rates and workers' compensation insurance for its employees, especially if they'll be moving large objects.   You don't want to incur liability is someone is injured while moving.  And liability can be a factor if someone if providing free services.  

I mention this b/c some contractors with whom I've discussed volunteer work have advised that they will not work with charities b/c the charities demand that the contractors assume liability for the project, which they would anyway if they were paid.   But they're not.   And if I remember correctly, the charity also demanded to be indemnified.   

I used to recommend these charities b/c they provided free assistance to those in need, but that was before I learned how some contractors view these agencies and the situations that are created by their involvement. 

How much furniture has to be moved?   A bed, dressers, etc.?   You might be able to hire a small moving company, like Two Men and a Truck.  My aunt hired them to move her bedroom furniture downstairs and was pleased with them. 

Another option is to search in your area for companies that specialize in mobility based solutions.  These are the companies that provide work ranging from installation of grab bars to construction of ramps.    These companies also typically participate in the AAA annual Caregiver Expos.   

I did a quick search for your area:  you can start here and check out these companies:

https://www.google.com/search?source=hp&ei=Q05YXYW6CJCp_Qb4voX4CA&q=Mobility+companies%2C+Beaverton%2C+Oregon&oq=Mobility+companies%2C+Beaverton%2C+Oregon&gs_l=psy-ab.3..33i22i29i30.2772.12979..13194...4.0..0.213.3889.28j12j1......0....1..gws-wiz.....6..0j0i131j0i308i154j0i10j0i22i30j0i22i10i30j33i160j0i13j0i8i13i30j33i299.4kCW7bah9ho&ved=0ahUKEwjF57-By4rkAhWQVN8KHXhfAY8Q4dUDCAs&uact=5#spf=1566068293809.  

Also:   if you have a downstairs bathroom, will it require any adaption, such as grab bars?
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