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I. How We Work in Washington. Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services. APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
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Because his brain is broken and he doesn't understand. Because he believes you are his rock, his rescuer, and he can get you to do his bidding. Because he feel fearful and desperate. Because his brain is broken and he cannot understand.
I am so sorry. You didn't cause this and you can't fix this and you are wise to get him now into safe care. THERE WILL BE GRIEVING. Is this not worth grieving. There will be anger and tears and begging and mourning and manipulation and desperation and despair and I mean there will be that/those for BOTH of you. There is simply no way around the grief of this but through it. You know you are doing the only thing you can. Be gentle with him. And understand that you will bear the brunt of this because YOU are the one he trusts to let it all loose on.
I hope he will adjust quickly. For my own brother he was so much better when he entered care. It was like all the things he had to manage and worry about were over. It was a routine that comforted him. I hope this happens for you both. My heart goes out to you and I am so very sorry.
It's what they do. Remind him how much you love him, redirect the conversation when the guilt gets going, take him for a walk or give him a snack you brought with you, watch a movie etc. If things get bad, tell him you'll be back another day when he's in a better mood. That's what I told my mother in Memory Care when she'd get nasty. Give him a hug and a kiss and leave.
This disease is a no win situation for BOTH of you, not just him.
Try to plan your visit so that it coincides with a facility activity or event, then when it's time for you to leave, take him to the event, let the staff know you are dipping out and then part while he's distracted and occupied.
Someone can only make us feel guilty if we allow them to. So quit allowing him. You know in your heart of hearts that you've done what is best for him and best for you, and that's all there is to it. Reassure him that you love him and will come visit when you're able. Eventually he'll be far enough in his dementia journey that he'll forget that you placed him there. May God bless you as you take this difficult journey with your husband.
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
VI. No Waiver of Your Rights.
APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
I agree that:
A.
I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information").
B.
APFM may provide information to me electronically. My electronic signature on agreements and documents has the same effect as if I signed them in ink.
C.
APFM may send all communications to me electronically via e-mail or by access to an APFM web site.
D.
If I want a paper copy, I can print a copy of the Disclosures or download the Disclosures for my records.
E.
This E-Sign Acknowledgement and Authorization applies to these Disclosures and all future Disclosures related to APFM's services, unless I revoke my authorization. You may revoke this authorization in writing at any time (except where we have already disclosed information before receiving your revocation.) This authorization will expire after one year.
F.
You consent to APFM's reaching out to you using a phone system than can auto-dial numbers (we miss rotary phones, too!), but this consent is not required to use our service.
Because he believes you are his rock, his rescuer, and he can get you to do his bidding.
Because he feel fearful and desperate.
Because his brain is broken and he cannot understand.
I am so sorry. You didn't cause this and you can't fix this and you are wise to get him now into safe care. THERE WILL BE GRIEVING. Is this not worth grieving. There will be anger and tears and begging and mourning and manipulation and desperation and despair and I mean there will be that/those for BOTH of you.
There is simply no way around the grief of this but through it.
You know you are doing the only thing you can. Be gentle with him. And understand that you will bear the brunt of this because YOU are the one he trusts to let it all loose on.
I hope he will adjust quickly. For my own brother he was so much better when he entered care. It was like all the things he had to manage and worry about were over. It was a routine that comforted him. I hope this happens for you both. My heart goes out to you and I am so very sorry.
This disease is a no win situation for BOTH of you, not just him.
Good luck.
You know in your heart of hearts that you've done what is best for him and best for you, and that's all there is to it.
Reassure him that you love him and will come visit when you're able. Eventually he'll be far enough in his dementia journey that he'll forget that you placed him there.
May God bless you as you take this difficult journey with your husband.