I feel defeated nothing I say works, what now? My grandma is stubborn and thinks that she knows what is best for my grandpa when it comes to his insulin dosage - she makes up numbers that are not even on the chart given by the doctor. Her and 1 of my uncles continue to feed my grandpa fried chicken, fried fish, bbq ribs, french fries, pizza and so forth. I provide detail info on the best foods and worst foods for diabetic but.....my grandma and 1 of my uncles thinks he can have whatever he wants. When his blood sugar is high - they think that it is good because they rather have it high than too low. I provided them info on why high blood sugar is not good but it goes in one ear and out the other. My grandma herself is not well - she has a brain tumor and doesn't want to get it removed because she thinks it won't solve anything, she has gastritis and won't give up soda or coffee, she doesn't take her meds daily like she is supposed to and there is nothing I can do to make her take them because again, she knows best and she thinks the doctors are stupid. My anxiety and stress over the fights I have with my grandma about following doctors orders is causing me to fall in a depression because I feel defeated. I'm at a lost, does anyone have any helpful advice or have experienced the same type of situation?
This is Not Your Circus; Not Your Monkeys.
(I agree with Linda's response but can't like it from my iPhone.)
The Joslin Diabetes Center website is a good place to learn more about Type 2 and insulin.
According to Nobelprize, one third of people who have type 2 take insulin.
Your grandfather has reached 89 eating all the wrong foods. And with your grandmother being 81 [from your profile], she isn't going to change her cooking habits. She's probably from the same way of thinking as my Mom that *a little bit won't hurt*.
Of course your Grandmother isn't going to move to an Assistant Living facility because she has YOU are doing the work, so why should she move. You are living there 24/7 so Grandma thinks everything is fine and dandy. Sometimes you need tough love with elders. I give you a lot of credit for replacing your Mom when your Mom could no longer cope with the Caregiving [per your profile].
Move in with your Mom for a couple of weeks, even if it means sleeping on the sofa, and go over to your grandparents only if an emergency pops up. Have that Uncle look in on them. Then and only then maybe Grandma will realize she actually does need more help.... tell her she has two choices: being on her own, or moving into Assistant Living.... and build up the positives. This may or may not work, keep on that sofa for the time being.