She 76. I think she has some idea. She is very independent well able pay bills knows names. If went somewhere few hours like last Friday went a town half hr away from near both of us on way home she asks what town were we in? I cook meat now and she doesn't even argue that normally she say do that herself she lives with my dad.
Consult with an Elder Care Lawyer, get POA's in place for Finances, Health Care and she should probably sign a P.O.L.S.T that is the "new" DNR. P.O.L.S.T. stands for Physicians Order For Life Sustaining Treatment and it is more detailed than a DNR.
She will forget that she said that she does not want to burden you with her care and when she can no longer care for herself that she will be willing to go into Living or Memory Care. but the fact that you talked about it when she is aware will help you in the decision when the time comes. Or if she knows what is to come she may be willing to look at Assisted Living now.
But it will also give you a greater amount of time for her to plan for possibility of going on Medicaid. There is a "look back" but planning now can help.
Another reason...enjoy each other now. The Mom you have now is not the Mom you will have in 6 months, 12 months or 2 years from now.
Good Luck Eibhlin, this is Your time to make new and beautiful memories with Your Mom.
How is your Mom's eyesight? Sometimes our elder's eyesight isn't the best, and that can also confuse them especially if out traveling in areas that are not traveled by them on a regular basis.
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