My mother has dementia. Her doctor says she cannot take care of her health care decisions or finances she is incapable. This make her trust irrevocable. My other siblings have talked her out of going to the doctor a new one that deals with elderly issues. Adult Protective Services has this letter bust insists she can refuse to go to the doctor and she can live at home. My siblings who are either felons or drug distributors are staying there. They never came around before. My mothers living trust is very specific and she went to a spanish speaking attorney but of course doesn't remember now. All APS say is that if we can't get along she will go to the state.
But people follow you and he is at my mothers. Do they take care of her because they love her no. The first thing I was asked for was the money my mom has in her bank acct. payable at death. He wants it now. Why would I want my mother in a nursing home. Because we went thru hell trying to move her in to my sisters who is a retired nurse. She would have had excellent care and the siblings that had never been around threw a fit. Do they come around now no. She is at home. I still go down and take care of her. Guardianship is expensive already so the lawyer. My mom will need care for altzeimers soon she won't have the money.Again drug dealing is not a suspicion it is a reality. What my mom wants and the reality of the situation are two different things. I guess you could ask do you want the siblings that are there for her money to kill her? Well by all means let her die at home.APS says she doesn't have to go to the doctor even if she is very ill. She can refuse. That is plain stupid. But by all means let her die at home. I have taken care of an alziheimers patient. I have taken care of my best friend until he died in the home and I took care of my brother in law until he he had to go into hospice type care and died a few weeks later. We stayed with him around the clock. Some of the family are selfish human beings and only take from people.
Its been along day and a fifty hour week. I'm cranky and tired. Sometimes its hard to do the right thing when you have to fight all the time. I am tired of the family that fights us to take care of my mother. If we weren't there she would already be broke
If you do apply for guardianship, be sure you can prove that your siblings (who are caring for her from an outsiders view) are abusing her or denying her medical care. Is the VNA involved? Too many questions to really understand. Every family dynamic is different and suspicious of drug dealing is just hearsay. Again, people would rather die at home than in a NH. Ask yourself this: 'What would Mom want?"
My friend slapped a girl who was talking to a lover on his phone and he ripped it from the wall, he was arrested for a felony and went to jusry selection and got scared going to Las Vegas with his life, the girl was not cooperating but the DA picks up the charge and says 9 yrs if you lose or no jail time if you plea to a felony, we give you anger class for a year and no jail time, no matter how brave you are, even if 100% innocent few will not take the deal and avoid the chance of a 9 yr prison sentence!
I don't know why you keep putting the same exact house on every single page I say on here, it's as though you're spamming the site. I'm sure people are tired of seeing it on every single page they open, and I'm reporting it every time I see it on every new page I open. This site is a support for people with various experiences in caregiving, not for spell casters and spamming
Sorry you are in this mess at Christmas time!
State institutions are scary. But they are not as bad as the public thinks they are. She will have medical care available 24 hours a day 7 days a week. Healthy meals, and bathing and hygiene assistance as well. She will also have more opportunity to socialize. Many homes have Spanish speaking attendants, and care givers.
She will be safe from the unhealthy drug traffic.
Her living will should have her attorney's name address and phone number on it .
Good luck and big hugs.